Saturday, February 9, 2013

Me & Him: From...Him

So for a while now Spenser and I have been mulling over the idea of letting him create a post.  He wants to say a thing or two, give the world a chance to hear it all from his side.  And I figured, why the heck not!? This should be fun...;) So, without further ado, I give you,  (part of) the other side to our story. . .


So ShaNae asked me to write in her blog this time around since she is swamped with school, work and wedding planning. Obviously, all of us who read ShaNae’s blog know what an amazing writer she is. I apologize in advance if I bore any readers. She will be back writing soon.

There is so much I could write about, but again, to avoid boring people and making this post twenty pages long I’ll try to keep my comments sweet and simple.
The first thing I need to write about is the first time we met. ShaNae wrote a post not too long ago talking about that very thing. But it's all wrong. She says that it was at Chili’s with another friend but she is very much mistaken. Here is the real story of how we first met.

My best friend at the time was living down in Provo. I would usually go down after work or on the weekends and we would chill. I had just gotten out of a relationship so we were two bachelors who didn’t have a care in the world. After a few weeks he started hanging out with this girl who later became his girlfriend. And I kept hanging out with them since I didn’t have any other friends, so we became the three amigos and did everything together. 

One night I got a call from this friend saying that we were going to do something crazy for the weekend and that I needed to get down as soon as I was done with work. He told me that his girlfriend had brought her best friend along to hang out with us.  I didn’t think much of it at the time since I had recently gotten out of a relationship and wasn't on the prowl. I just thought it would be nice to have someone else there for conversation.

Once I got down to the house in Provo they were all waiting for me. Then we were deciding what crazy things we could do for the weekend. THAT'S when ShaNae and I met for the first time. (Unless you ask her…She has no memory of this night. Probably because she too, had recently gotten out of a relationship and had no interest in the opposite gender.) Anyway, no one had any great ideas until my buddy and I decided to go to the store for some dry ice and make a dry ice bomb in the park near his house. So we went to the store and got all the needed material. Then, later, to the park so no one would be walking through as we were making it. It turned out to be one of the biggest fails ever. Nothing even happened. We stood out there watching it for probably an hour before we decided to go up and see why it hadn't gone off. The dry ice had melted a hole in the plastic bottle and let out all the water...oh. That's why...

This whole time we were all talking about random things but mostly ShaNae and I were along for the ride while our best friends were doing their thing. I guess I didn’t make an impression on ShaNae because I didn’t talk much and I didn’t try to impress her because she made it clear she was not looking for any type of relationship and in fact hated most males at this moment in her life.

The next time we met was at Chili’s with her friend, which is the first time she remembers meeting me. After that, all four of us started hanging out together, going to parties or just chillin on the weekends. Throughout these few months, ShaNae always made it clear that she was not looking for a relationship so I never tried anything with her. But that wasn't exactly what I wanted. I remember from the first time meeting her that I was attracted to her. Not just because she was a gorgeous ginger, but because of her personality as well. She wasn’t like other girls I had dated or been friends with in the past. She was much more…real. If I had one word to describe ShaNae it would be REAL. Because she doesn’t ever put a mask on for anyone or ever pretend to be someone she isn’t. If she didn’t like you she would tell you to your face instead of pretending to get along with you. At first it took me by surprise, and I’m not going to lie I was intimidated by her, which is another reason I didn’t try to ask her out or anything. We were just friends who hung out on the weekends and no more. But again, I didn’t try anything with her because she made it clear that she hated men…not because I didn’t want to. She always intrigued me though and I felt myself becoming more and more attracted to her the better I got to know her. But all I could do was be myself and see if she started to trust people again and see where we could go. Then when the summer came along and she stopped hanging out with us I was a bit disappointed. There goes this amazing girl who I had started to fall for and she never even knew. And for all I knew I would never see her again.

Well that is my side of the story of how we met and the first few months of our crazy relationship. Since she is much better at writing and storytelling I’ll let her tell the rest of our story. But I would like to take some time to embarrass her and maybe tell everyone some things she wouldn’t otherwise tell.  Hopefully she doesn’t get too mad at me.

First thing that I find funny is the terrible luck she has with cops. She hasn’t had a single run in with the law that had gone her way. I on the other hand am the exact opposite. I have only had one speeding ticket which was when I was seventeen, and every time I have been pulled over since I have had a cool police officer who was super nice and let me off with a warning. This doesn’t make her happy either…Don’t even ask her how many times she has been pulled over. She finally had her license suspended because she had too many points on her record. Let just say that I do most of the driving when we are together.

One of our favorite things to do together is to go rock climbing at the Quarry in Provo. ShaNae got me all my gear for Christmas and since then we have tried to go as often as possible. We are always looking for people to go with us on Friday nights since we get in two people for free with our passes (*winkwink*).

One of the funniest things I have ever witnessed has been when ShaNae had the hiccups. I was literally on the ground crying the first time she got them when we were together. I can’t even explain them; you just have to witness them for yourself to understand how funny they are. 

Every opportunity I have to brag about ShaNae, I take, and this seems like one of the best places to do just that. So...

Simply put, ShaNae is the best thing that has ever happened in my life. But, at the same time, one of the hardest. Which has been no one’s fault.  We just frequently question how after all the many things that have almost torn us apart, we've have managed to keep it together. All I can say is, and I’m sure that ShaNae will agree with me on this, the Big Man better be ready to start throwing some blessings our way. We need a break!!

The biggest blessing in my life is going to happen in a month from now when we are married for time and all eternity in the Temple of the Lord. It is something we both thought would happen later in our lives when we were either more established, more prepared, had more money or one of a thousand other reasons. But we decided that now is the time for us to finally tie the knot. (And I’m pretty sure if we wait any longer something else will happen. Between the amnesia and heart surgery and having to postpone the wedding this many times already, I’m not letting ShaNae out of my sight until we are married and I can go with her on her crazy adventures.)

I guess just to end I want to remind ShaNae how in love with her I am. I’ve never been a real touchy person; ShaNae has changed that for me. I have never been able to talk to people the way I can talk to ShaNae. I never pictured myself falling in love with such an amazing woman the way I have with ShaNae.  I have never had anyone motivate me to do things with my life until I met and fell in love with ShaNae.  In short she makes me a better person in all areas of my life. I love that she has goals in all aspects of her life including school, personal goals, religion and the family life we are going to start together. She is the most incredible woman I have ever met and once again I couldn’t be more grateful for her and I love her so much.
                                              Unless it is mad passionate extraordinary love it is a wast of time. There are too many mediocre things in  life. Love should not be one of them.

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